An Open Letter to Ched Evans about your ‘Supporters’.

Dear Ched Evans:

It has been another week on social media of women being threatened with rape; another week of not being able to challenge the rape culture, of not being able to speak freely, without being verbally abused.  Supposed Sheffield United (TW) fans continue to use vile words to undermine any woman who dares speak out against rape.

Two weeks ago, the father of your victim had to speak out because your video plea to be allowed to ‘get on with your life’ and play football, along with the continued harassment of his daughter via social media which led to requiring to take on yet another identity, is having a devastating emotional impact on her. He is frightened for her, worried that she won’t get through this.

But still your supporters come at her.

We know (how could we not) that you claim to be innocent, that you claim that your victim consented – although you certainly never asked her if she wanted to have sex, or of she wanted to be filmed, and she was certainly in no position to answer the question even if you had.  Yet despite all your claims of innocence, you have stood silently by whilst your supporters have engaged in abusive, threatening behaviour, against your victim and a raft of women who have exercised their own right to free speech and dared to challenge such behaviour.

Even if you genuinely believe you are innocent, that is no longer the point: you have your family, a support group, solicitors, lawyers, private detectives and a future father-in-law bankrolling a campaign that has its own website.

What does your victim have? She had to be taken away from her family, her friends, her home town: she can no longer live under her own name: your campaign seems determined to grind her further down, perhaps in the hopes that she will break completely.

You want to get on with your life, you say, but you seem to want to do that at the expense of your victim. All that abuse, all that harassment from your fans: well, when you have such well oiled, well funded campaign machine, your silence about what your fans do makes you look like a bully – the worst kind of bully: the one that is behind the scenes getting other people to do his dirty work for him.

And every bully should be told to stop. Especially the ones pulling strings behind the scenes, especially the ones who stay silent whilst others do the bullying on his behalf.

In the context of what has – and is being done – to you victim, your pleas to be rehabilitated ring hollow; the site of your sorrowful face as you plead for another chance acts only to belittle the woman you raped and continue to victimise, through your campaign and your fans. Yes, a petition was launched against you: but what did you expect? That people would simply keep quiet in the face of all of that, and turn the other way whilst you continued on without a seeming care for any of that?

Whatever the outcome of your latest appeal, and whether or not Sheffield United decide to re-sign you: stop this.  Remember that your sentence is not yet done.

If you are serious about rehabilitation, about making amends, about taking responsibility and earning another chance – close the website, or ask those who fund it and run it to do so. Tell your supporters and fans to leave the victim alone. Tell your fans to stop threatening women just because they don’t like what we say.

If you have any shred of decency in you: put an end to it, now.

Sincerely,

ali

Update 21/12/2014: Hartlepool United’s new manager – Ronnie Moore – has expressed interest in signing Ched Evans, thereby unleashing fresh headlines and speculation which will undoubtedly cause further pain to the woman Ched Evans raped.  This is, simply, cruelty, justified by those who – like Moore – care only about the goals Evans might score, than any pain caused to his victim (and indeed, many rape victims who find these discussions, headlines and speculations immensely distressing).

So I posting this open letter again, and I would like to thank everyone who has shared this previously. Sometimes the only option is to stand up to the bully.

 

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9 thoughts on “An Open Letter to Ched Evans about your ‘Supporters’.

  1. Quite a shallow one sided write up.. IF he is adamant he is innocent.. And personally I believe he is and will not apologise for having that belief.. Then he is absolutely right to not apologise. He is in the middle of an appeal.. And rightfully isn’t commenting until that outcome. IF he wins and is awarded miscarriage of justice then I assume you and many others will all apologise to him for making him a victim? People can have different beliefs.. Its not forbidden. Most haven’t read he facts of the case. But the law is hugely one sided.. Drunk women = rape.. Drunk man = rapist.. That isn’t the case. Her behaviour and actions were unacceptable as well.. He rightfully wants to get on with his life.. It doesn’t matter doing what.. According to the law he has served his punishment and is entitled to appeal. jury’s get things wrong.. The law isn’t perfect and miscarriages of justice do happen.. The world shouldn’t be forced to agree because women say so.. Or because people are told they should. Don’t judge everyone by a few trolls either. Being offended is a choice. A choice they usually chose instead of choosing to block people. Some comments are unacceptable and rightfully should be reported. Some are just over sensitive people. That’s life. IF he wins an appeal I look forward to your apology.

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    • He got his *own brother* and a friend to secretly film him and that poor girl – so innocent, no. And yes, it is rape if the woman is drunk and is therefore incapable of giving consent. If you have trouble getting your head around that, stay away from women. And yes – his silence is tacit approval of his bully boy fans who are fed by the campaign and website financed by his wealthy future father-in-law. If he is really innocent, he would understand how detrimental it would be for his case that the girl (who he raped, who was filmed without her permission) is being bullied, harassed and further abused on social media. And people go on about how *he* should be allowed to get on with his life?? (And actually he HAS NOT yet served his time: he is out on license. You need to look up what that means).

      And yes, I do know the facts of the case. Which is why I can do the nuance you seem unable to grasp.

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  2. I was drunk. ended up in bed with a woman. had I been sober I would have gone after her better looking mate. so, does that mean that I, along with a lot of other men, have been raped?

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