Of course I am still talking about that ASBO, and I am talking about it doesn’t just trivialise rape but because it perpetuates the myths that help to feed rape culture. And honestly, it’s obvious – from the wearing short skirts mean you are asking for it myth, to the myths about being drunk whilst being raped – it doesn’t take a genius to see how this awful ‘gift’ makes light of every trope that makes it appallingly difficult for those who are raped or abused to be believed.
And that’s before you get to the supposedly ‘light hearted’ stoning – because that’s not even a little bit racist is it? Honestly, anyone who thinks I have ‘too much time on my hands’: how is this (TW/CN) meant to be funny?
To be honest, being white and cis-gendered means that I haven’t faced any serious abuse talking about this – those privileges protect me, and I am not blind to that. But let’s also get something clear: I am not some over-wrought emotional harridan making a fuss about some harmless bit of paper. What I am angry, really truly white-hot angry about, is that we live in a culture that finds it acceptable to perpetuate the oppressions that say that this is acceptable.
I am angry at the homophobic, transphobic, racist gender norms where ‘feminine = submissive, woman = property’ that are so ingrained in us that seemingly perfectly normal people can excuse this sort of thing and can shrug it off without a thought as ‘it’s just a joke’, and mock those who challenge it as though their failure to see the problem is our fault.
The myths might be the product of an interwoven web of oppression, and made up of myriad parts, but as the lovely Zanna commented ‘we fight them on the scale of possibility.‘
I don’t have a hammer to smash the whole rotten structure down – but I can fight this. And whatever comes next.